Pronoun Issues

My town is just not straight. Over the last few months I've learned that there are a bajillion people in this town that belong to the LGBTQIAsdfjdaklfdjsafklsd community.

I added those extra letters in there so I don't miss anyone.

Now, as I have recently embraced my lesbianism, this is useful. But I've developed a problem.

Pronouns.

I'm going crazy. There are girls who look like girls and have girl names, girls who look like boys who go by girl names, girls who look like boys who go by boy names, girls who look like boys who go by a girl name sometimes and a boy name other times, girls who identify as boys so you better not fuck up and call them a she and.. the list goes on.

My mind is just fried. He, she.. I don't even know anymore. I'm always on edge, worrying that I'll make a mistake.

I work with someone who identifies as genderqueer. Which is awesome. I actually really like people who fall into this category and I'm sure I'll end up dating someone who is genderqueer.

Now it would be fine and dandy if my coworker went by the same name all the time. At work he goes by a boys name.. at home this person goes by his ex-name, and all of his other friends are in this weird void where they call him by his last name. Being one of his coworkers, I refer to him as a boy.

As I begin to meet more and more people, as I said before, my mind is fried. The other day I called this person a "she" right next to "him." Needless to say, being in the genderqueer category, he didn't mind much. He just laughed at me and said "Ha, that's the first time you did that." But, now my fear of making mistakes with the other people I know (who have a gender that is more set in stone) is probably going to scare me into making worse mistakes.

I'm glad I fall into the "femme" category. No one ever fucks up my pronoun. It's quite simple.